This is an important conversation — one we should all be having as women. As a collective we’re losing our sense of dressing appropriately or our ability to follow a dress code. With the rise of social media, everything is becoming more performative and consumable, and like you pointed out, sex sells and the occasion doesn't matter.
This reminds me of a couple of months ago on TikTok this woman going viral for wearing shorts to an interview and being sent home then coming online to shame the company as if she hadn't broken social rules.
Again this was such a good start of a conversation because if we don’t do the work to reclaim our self worth and recenter its source to self actualization it’s so easy to devalue ourselves in seeking external validation. Specially if that’s what you’ve been taught you should derive your value. Sometimes I think older women have stopped trying to have these conversations with the young girls in their lives and have outsourced their responsibilities to the internet.
Well said. My plan is to create visibility and help others to start thinking through Substack. I believe that is the first step. I do mentoring and teach what I have learnt locally to serve the community. I encourage people to read and learn and lean on family and close friends for feedback and support to stay grounded.
Agreed! when validation becomes the currency, the self grows poor.
Let one abandon the need to be seen, and they become rich in presence, dignity, and inner freedom
Loved your analysis of women's self- objectification. You took your time describing the problem, causes, consequences and solution. Very well done.
This is an important conversation — one we should all be having as women. As a collective we’re losing our sense of dressing appropriately or our ability to follow a dress code. With the rise of social media, everything is becoming more performative and consumable, and like you pointed out, sex sells and the occasion doesn't matter.
This reminds me of a couple of months ago on TikTok this woman going viral for wearing shorts to an interview and being sent home then coming online to shame the company as if she hadn't broken social rules.
Agreed. We can do better.
Again this was such a good start of a conversation because if we don’t do the work to reclaim our self worth and recenter its source to self actualization it’s so easy to devalue ourselves in seeking external validation. Specially if that’s what you’ve been taught you should derive your value. Sometimes I think older women have stopped trying to have these conversations with the young girls in their lives and have outsourced their responsibilities to the internet.
This is so beautiful Sana ❤️🫶
I can relate to the struggle of staying true to yourself while navigating external pressures.
I’ve found that having a system like My Accountability Partner helps maintain clarity and consistency in how I show up online and in life.
How do you help others balance authenticity with societal expectations?
Well said. My plan is to create visibility and help others to start thinking through Substack. I believe that is the first step. I do mentoring and teach what I have learnt locally to serve the community. I encourage people to read and learn and lean on family and close friends for feedback and support to stay grounded.
Leaning on Family and friends for support to stay grounded is such an overlooked privilege
It is timely for women to dig deeper and get the advice shared here. Excellent.
Thank you.